I’m afraid to be myself.
That’s a huge statement, isn’t it? But it’s true. And false. Here’s why:
I’ve been reading and researching LIKE CRAZY lately. Because my blog is new and this whole blogging world is still somewhat new to me I’m soaking up every bit of information I can; webinars, ebooks, articles to read, email lists and opt-ins galore. I’m afraid I’m going to burn myself out if I keep going this way! It’s too soon for a burn out don’t you think?
With all this information coming at me from all angles I’m afraid I’m not going to be able to do it. I won’t be able to complete with all these shiny, well developed brands. I know it’s just because this is the beginning and those shiny bloggers were once in my shoes wondering if all this stuff was actually worth it. So I’m being honest here, I want to be as honest and transparent as possible with my readers even if I’m just writing for myself right now.
So why am I afraid to be myself? Well there are a few reasons I suppose. When I look at successful bloggers I see similarities. Now I’m not trying to make a generalization here, I know everyone is different and they have their own approaches to their brands. I look at myself and see someone a little different and I wonder if I’ll be relatable enough. It’s probably silly too because I know I’m awesome 😉 But finding the “me” on the internet is hard man! I like gifs as much as the next guy but do they belong on my blog? Bold colours are popular but that’s just not my style. There’s some weird fine line when finding your “brand” for a blog and web presence.
So what do I do? How can I let go of this fear of being me? Firstly, see that photo up there? The one with MY FREAKIN’ FACE on it? Talk about feeling vulnerable! I went back and forth on whether or not to use a photo of me for that graphic but I thought, isn’t it more fitting to put my mug on something that is talking all about me? Yea.
Secondly, I’m going to stop looking at Pinterest so damn much. It’s an amazing resource, I don’t know where any of us would be without it. I don’t want to think of life before Pinterest (LBP for short). While it is amazing it can be distracting as hell! Seeing what everyone else is doing makes me think I’m not doing enough so I start to click on every pin thinking it’ll take me to the post that will answer all of my questions and guess what? It doesn’t help, at least not right in that moment.
So I came across this quote the other day and it’s been impactful.
How to be successful: focus on your own shit.
Duh! Do you think successful people worry about what others are doing? Are they worried that their colours, fonts or hosting aren’t “on trend” or too trendy? Not likely. Then again maybe they have someone else worrying about that stuff, but anyway 😉 … If I shift my focus to who I am and what I want this blog and my shop to look and feel like I think I’ll be in the right spot. But it’s hard, it really is. Once you’re in the trenches of learning how to blog and brand it’s all encompassing.
But I need to stop that and maybe you do too. So how are you doing it? Do you have a way to keep yourself centred and focused on your own shit? Please share below in the comments!
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