I’m Afraid To Be Myself | Am I Not Like Other Bloggers?

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I’m afraid to be myself.

That’s a huge statement, isn’t it? But it’s true. And false. Here’s why:

I’ve been reading and researching LIKE CRAZY lately. Because my blog is new and this whole blogging world is still somewhat new to me I’m soaking up every bit of information I can; webinars, ebooks, articles to read, email lists and opt-ins galore. I’m afraid I’m going to burn myself out if I keep going this way! It’s too soon for a burn out don’t you think?

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With all this information coming at me from all angles I’m afraid I’m not going to be able to do it. I won’t be able to complete with all these shiny, well developed brands. I know it’s just because this is the beginning and those shiny bloggers were once in my shoes wondering if all this stuff was actually worth it. So I’m being honest here, I want to be as honest and transparent as possible with my readers even if I’m just writing for myself right now.

So why am I afraid to be myself? Well there are a few reasons I suppose. When I look at successful bloggers I see similarities. Now I’m not trying to make a generalization here, I know everyone is different and they have their own approaches to their brands. I look at myself and see someone a little different and I wonder if I’ll be relatable enough. It’s probably silly too because I know I’m awesome ūüėČ But finding the “me” on the internet is hard man! I like gifs as much as the next guy but do they belong on my blog? Bold colours are popular but that’s just not my style. There’s some weird fine line when finding your “brand” for a blog and web presence.

So what do I do? How can I let go of this fear of being me? Firstly, see that photo up there? The one with MY FREAKIN’ FACE on it? Talk about feeling vulnerable! I went back and forth on whether or not to use a photo of me for that graphic but I thought, isn’t it more fitting to put my mug on something that is talking all about me? Yea.

Secondly, I’m going to stop looking at Pinterest so damn much. It’s an amazing resource, I don’t know where any of us would be without it. I don’t want to think of life before Pinterest (LBP for short). While it is amazing it can be distracting as hell! Seeing what everyone else is doing makes me think I’m not doing enough so I start to click on every pin thinking it’ll take me to the post that will answer all of my questions and guess what? It doesn’t help, at least not right in that moment.

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So I came across this quote the other day and it’s been impactful.

How to be successful: focus on your own shit.

Duh! Do you think successful people worry about what others are doing? Are they worried that their colours, fonts or hosting aren’t “on trend” or too trendy? Not likely. Then again maybe they have someone else worrying about that stuff, but anyway ūüėČ … If I shift my focus to who I am and what I want this blog and my shop to look and feel like I think I’ll be in the right spot. But it’s hard, it really is. Once you’re in the trenches of learning how to blog and brand it’s all encompassing.

But I need to stop that and maybe you do too. So how are you doing it? Do you have a way to keep yourself centred and focused on your own shit? Please share below in the comments!

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How To Find The Good Within The Bad: Expect Nothing, Appreciate Everything

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“Expect nothing, appreciate everything.”

Seems like a wonderful mantra to live by doesn’t it? Not that it’s easy to do, but nothing worth doing is easy, or so “they” say.

I’m going to be featuring some of my embroidery pieces throughout the blog so I can talk a little about each of them. Throwing a little free printable in here doesn’t hurt though, right?

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Let’s talk expectations. When was the last time you were expecting a certain kind of outcome? Did it end up being a mistake to expect something from another person or situation? Most likely the answer will be yes. So why do we do this to ourselves? Hype something up in our minds or just expect¬†the absolute worst outcome. I don’t know why we do it but what I do know is we can change it! I love this quote (source is unknown) because its a fantastic reminder to ourselves to take a step back and reevaluate how we our viewing our surroundings.

Let’s take blogging for example. I’ve started blogs before and I’ve given up blogs too. I’ve started businesses and I’ve closed them too. What I’ve found to be a common thread between these “failed” ventures is I viewed them as the be-all end-all to my problems. I needed money or I needed a creative outlet so I would pour everything into one avenue¬†and fail to do the real research and planning before learning all there is (within reason of course, I can’t possibly learn all the things!) to know and if this venture is truly a good fit for me. Maybe this sounds familiar¬†to you (if so, Hi! Let’s be friends!) and you’re in the same boat as I am trying to figure out your “fit”, your “you” thing. If that is the case, take a lesson from my book… appreciate this time.

Appreciate. 

verb (used with object), appreciated, appreciating.
1. to be grateful or thankful for:
They appreciated his thoughtfulness.
2. to value or regard highly; place a high estimate on:
to appreciate good wine.
3. to be fully conscious of; be aware of; detect:
to appreciate the dangers of a situation.

Okay, so we know what it means but how can we add this word to our everyday struggles? The easiest way to look at it for me is, see the good in everything, even the real shitty things. But why, why would we do this?! Because you gotta. Ok, so that’s a pretty pointless and juvenile answer. But sometimes thats how we feel about seeing the good in the bad. It’s hard and we don’t want to do it and stopping our feet on the ground with our hands curled into fists just feels easier. But trust me, it can be much easier to accomplish. It takes a shift into positive thinking. Almost a pro and con list of sorts with the exception of writing the con part ūüėČ

Take your bad situation and turn it around by being appreciative for it.

Ok, I’m not stupid. I know not all bad situations have silver linings, we all go through our own shit and sometimes there isn’t a “good” to be seen within it. But for the other times, here’s an example of how to do it.

You just lost your job. You have no source of income and you need to do something about it.

Here’s how to look at it positively; you learned so many new skills at your old job, you met great friends you’ll have for years, you were able to put away some money into your savings (now you have something to fall back on), now that you have time you can finally do more reading/learning/go back to school or take a course, start that business you had a great idea for, start blogging…

Man the options are endless in this situation! This is your time to better yourself and your life. Sometimes the best things come out of dark situations and do you know why you come out of those dark situations? Because YOU get yourself out of it.

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As a reminder of appreciating the bad shit and expecting nothing I’ve put together a digital print for you! Print this baby out and put it in your work space (I’d love to see a photo if you do! Tag me on Instagram @fribblespoon) as a reminder to see the good even in the bad.

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So tell me, have you used this tactic to see the good in your bad situation? How did it go for you?

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Top 10 (Handmade!) Mother’s Day Gifts 2016

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It’s almost time to find that perfect Mother’s Day gift! Don’t fret though, I’ve complied a list of super awesome (handmade!) gifts for your momma.

Now since not all mom’s love the same kind of things I’ve done my best to pull gift idea’s for different kinds of ladies. This list isn’t so much a “Top 10” as it is a gift guide, so these are in no particular order. You’ll find presents for new moms, your mom, your wife, step-mom, grandma, sister… the options are endless really.

Mother’s Day 2016 – Top 10 Handmade Gift Ideas

10. Nordic Linen Home – Gorgeous linen items from Viive at Nordic Linen. I’m a total sucker for anything linen and these napkins or table runners (or both would make a fantastic gift!) are no exception.

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Nordic Linen Home Napkins & Table Runner

9. Preserves Design – Is there that one recipe that has been passed down from generation to generation? Stacy from Preserves Design has such an amazing idea for a printable gift. Spouses take notice of this one – does your wife LOVE your mom’s Mac ‘n Cheese recipe? This would be the perfect time to get that recipe and turn it into a fabulous Mother’s Day present. Just message Stacy with the recipe and she’ll send you the printable (customizable from 20 colours!) and you can either print from your home printer or send it off to the local print house. Frame this bad boy and have it waiting for your wife/girlfriend/mom on Mother’s Day morning.

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Preserves Design Custom Recipe Printable

8. Eternal Bird Co. – Canadian maker Jennifer at Eternal Bird Co. has beautiful customizable jewellery. I’m loving the long boho necklace with 13 colour choices for the beads and 3 chain types to choose from. It really gives a little something-something to a plain tee and jeans. Oh and did I mention Jennifer will also gift wrap your purchase? Yea, it’s a no brainer for this gift.

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Eternal Bird Co. Custom Boho Necklace

7. Hinkleville – These little planters by Janet at Hinkleville (instagram)¬†just put a big fat smile on my face. All of her work is made in Toronto by hand and I’ve been noticing these planters popping up everywhere lately (stockists are taking note!) and I think it’s time for me to add one to my home (even if we end up killing all our plants, we try!).

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Hinkleville Pink + Gold Planter

6. Stephanie Street Co. – Ever want to rub a cupcake all over your body? Think your mom might want to? Perfect! Stephanie at Stephanie Street Co. makes amazing handmade soaps that look completely edible. For less than a trip to the spa you can pamper mom with a fantastic gift set or some cupcake soaps! She’s going to be a vender at Makeology April 16th if you would like to shop in person and also check out some fabulous handmade items. I know I’ll be there checking it out! Otherwise, check out her etsy shop for more ideas, but I think the gift box is perfect.

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Stephanie Street Co. Handmade Soaps

5. Hug And Kiss Designs – Fair warning, this cards are hilariously inappropriate, all depending on the mom you’re buying for of course. Nikki from Hug And Kiss Designs has a killer (albeit twisted) sense of humour and a few of her magnets adorn my fridge. If you’re looking for something different, look no further! The cute designs give you a sense of comfort and then the text throws you for a loop, a hilarious cheeky loop!

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Hug and Kiss Designs Mother's Day Cards

4. Sheila Caplan Pottery – ¬†I may (k)not be a knitter myself, or have plans to be anytime soon but Sheila at Sheila Caplan Pottery makes me wish I was so I could use this adorable and handy yarn bowl. Perfect for the crafty mom into crochet or knitting. Check out the rest of Sheila’s shop for other beautiful denim coloured items which I think would be an amazing gifting idea, get mom a matching series of handmade pottery for every upcoming occasion.

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Sheila Caplan Pottery, Yarn Bowl

3. Popoco Art – Hand drawn mugs! How cool are these? Juileth at Popoco Art¬†(link to mug on right) has some seriously awesome handwriting and she’s able to add it right onto a mug. I’m in love with the “You’re My Person” mug because I’m a huge Grey’s Anatomy fan. But enough about me! I know there has to be a ton of mom’s who’d love to sip their coffee or tea from a cup that says “I’m a Mom, What’s your Superpower?” ūüėČ

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Popoco Art, Hand-drawn Mugs

2. fribblespoon – Oh no I didn’t! Ok, I had to since I have a special item just for mother’s day! A custom quote embroidery in a 5 inch hoop. If your mom is a word lover or an avid reader and has a favourite quote this would be so perfect for her. I wrote more about it here in this blog post if you’d like to read more about it. I’m so excited to make these custom gifts!

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - fribblespoon custom made embroidery quote

1.¬†Brag About It – Gorgeous hand stamped personalized jewllery from Melissa at Brag About It will be a winner for any gift giving holiday. Perfect for Mother’s Day gifts! Have her name placed on a gorgeous gold bar¬†(attention spouses!) or add your children’s names to a necklace she’d treasure forever.

Top 10 Handmade Mother's Day Gifts - Brag About It Custom Jewellery

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And that wraps up the very first top 10 list! I hope I’ve given you some great ideas for Mother’s Day gifts. It was great finding other handmade businesses who were interested in sharing their work. So a big thank you to everyone on this list!

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Turn Your “Why Me?” into “Why Not Me?”

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You know that little voice that says “why me?” when something goes wrong. It happens to all of us and some more often than others.

 

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I try not to let that voice dictate my life though. I think I’ve gotten to the point in my life where I no longer look at things so black and white, I’m very much grey. I like to see every side of an argument before I form my opinion and I feel like sometimes that deters me from forming my own definite opinions on certain subjects. This fact makes me kind of nervous when starting my blog. I have all kinds of thoughts of “maybe I won’t have anything to say”¬†or “who cares what I think or do”. These are dangerous thoughts!

Wait a second, why not me?!

So instead of getting down on myself I’ve decided to take on a new mantra, “why not me?”

Why don’t I start that blog?
Why don’t I do that DIY project and share it online?
Why don’t I open up that etsy shop?
Why don’t I do something that makes me happy?

All good questions right? Do yourself a favour and write down your “why don’t I…” list. Is there something you keep putting off because it isn’t the “right” time or because you think you can’t do it for whatever reason? Well, you’re right. You can’t do it. Not if that’s your mentality. A switch in your mindset will be all the difference. Will it be an easy fix? Not at all!

I’m working on changing how I view the things I want to accomplish. I’ve started and never finished many projects, classes and businesses but I’m sure as hell not going to let that stop be from following a new idea. If I did that and never tried a new venture how would I find what works for me? I wouldn’t. And neither will you if you keep putting off that great idea you have. It’s super scary and can make you feel insecure about your idea or yourself when talking about your idea with friends, family or your spouse. But just know that they all want you to be successful and the more you talk about it and they see how passionate you are¬†the better they and you’ll feel about it.

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So maybe you just lost your job and you’re saying to yourself, why me? I’m saying it’s going to be easy to turn that negative experience into a positive one. Major life changes can be painful¬†and seeing the silver lining isn’t always as easy. I’ve found it takes time to get to the positive side of changes that throw us for a loop. But once the pity party is over and the black balloons have lost their helium and you find yourself sitting by yourself in the corner; it’s time to change how you’re thinking of your situation.

Start a list of things you’ve always wanted to do, no matter how silly you think those ideas might be just write them down. See if there is a common thread or theme that stands out. Maybe it’s a creative or academic theme or maybe you’re all over the board. It doesn’t matter, just start somewhere. If there is something that stands out and I really mean pops off the page at you, explore it. I’ve gone back and forth on so many ideas of what I’ve wanted to do in my life. It’s frustrating to have a handful (or more) of interests and have to choose one. I’ve decided I’ve had enough of choosing one thing to focus on. I’ve never been good at it. Sure I go through phases of loving something a little more extra than the others but the others are still there waiting for me to come back. I’m not letting this be a negative anymore. It’s no longer why do I have to be like this? Why can’t I just be good at one thing or really love one thing? These are my why me moments. Turning them into why not me has opened my mind up to possibilities. I touched on this in my first post¬†about learning other people feel the same why I do AND they are making it work for them, not against them.

So what are you going to turn into why not me?

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Perfect Mother’s Day Gift – It’s Personalized!

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I don’t know about you but sometimes I find gift giving hard. I love gift giving though, so don’t get me wrong. I’d much rather give than receive but I want to give something that the recipient LOVES¬†and knows I thought of them and what they enjoy. This is why personalized presents are amazing. You can’t get more spot-on with your gift-giving than going 100% custom!

As you may know I really love inspirational quotes. I know many of you do too and I also know a lot of mom’s have sayings they like to impart on their children.

What is something your mom always says?

Maybe it’s a piece of heartfelt advice from her own mother or something hilariously inappropriate¬†she once said and now it’s become an inside joke between the two of you. I know I have plenty of ridiculous moments and sayings between my mother and I.

With all of this in mind I’ve come up with a gift idea that I think you and your mom will love. A custom embroidery quote hoop just in time for Mother’s Day.

Perfect Mother's Day Gift - It's Personalized!

I’m taking up to 5 custom orders and closing all orders on April 15th to ensure I have enough time to create and ship before Mother’s Day (May 8th). All info can be seen on my etsy listing and I cannot wait to start!

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Here’s a look at the colours available for the text and the gorgeous creamy white cotton which the quote will be stitched on. The hoop will be 5 inches round and sorter quotes usually look best.

Custom Embroidery for Mother's Day - Featured colours and fabric.

So if you’re interested in getting something handmade for your mom this Mother’s Day please don’t hesitate. I look forward to hearing from you!

Perfect Mother's Day Gift - It's Personalized!

 

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